JoanMWheeler/DorisMSippel’s new book never happened!

here’s the background on it…


If this is HOW Doris M Sippel/Joan M Wheeler behaves, towards another author, at her FIRST BOOK SIGNING, than she ought to be banned from book signings!

Doris/Joan is an idiot! She’s so in love with herself and her so-called message to the public that she doesn’t see that she makes an ass out of herself. But I’m sure others see her behavior, as you will see within this post.

There are THREE separate items in this post; all are related to each other.

I was shown a Facebook page announcement for a book signing, where Doris/Joan was to be in attendance, AFTER the show was over. Ruth and I then left a couple of comments.


See this for the announcement. The Buffalo History Museum added 12 new photosNovember 25 at 3:13pm

Ruth Herr Sippel Pace             I did not attend this – but will say this: Doris Michol Sippel’s book “Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity,” is nothing but a rehash of a book that she had pubished in 2009 by Trafford Publications under her adopted name of Joan Mary Wheeler, entitled “Forbidden Family.” That book was pulled from publication when proof of libelous statement contained within the book was sent to Trafford.

In November 2015, Ms. Wheeler self-published the book as “Forbidden Family: My Life as an Adoptee Duped by Adoption, ” via Amazon’s Kindle.

In May 2016, Ms. Wheeler legally changed her name to the name she was given at birth, Doris Michol Sippel. She then had her book published AGAIN in September 2016 via Amazon’s Kindle under her new name, and changed the title to the book AGAIN to “Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity,” with no explanation to her customers of her name change or why she keeps changing the title of her book.

Each edition of her book remains 90% the same, the self-published kindle editions contain the same libelous materials that caused her first paperback edition to have been pulled from publication, and with additional libelous materials added in.

While I applaud local events giving local authors a venue to showcase their works, I suggest in the future, the persons organizing such events do some research on the authors and their material.

Discussions on Doris Michol Sippel’s (aka Joan Mary Wheeler) are readily found on google. please see this blog post: “Con Artist Joan Mary Wheeler, now known as Doris Michol Sippel strikes again by peddling to an unsuspecting public a book with a new title, a new author-name, BUT THE SAME CONTENTS INSIDE. ”…/con-artist-joan…/

November 27 at 11:58am

Gert Mcqueen              I wish to inform your institution of the undesirable nature of a local author and her book. I am a family member to Doris Michol Sippel also known as Joan M Wheeler. Her book is a NOT a true story, it is filled with malicious fabrications and libel towards every member of TWO families; her birth and adoptive families. Please do not allow her to use your GOOD NAME to continue to damage family members. PLEASE look at Amazon for the reviews on her titles as well as my blog and Facebook pages.

Here are links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book ‘Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism’ was published in 2009 but then was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011, for libelous material within the book. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!…/
thank you Gert Sippel McQueen


Ruth Herr Sippel Pace          it has come to my attention via an anti-adoption facebook page, that Doris Michol Sippel had started screaming at another author at this event. Because the other author had questioned her about adoption and did not use ‘correct’ adoption terminology. And has now published that other author’s phone number and other contact information and has asked other ‘angry adult adoptees” to spam that author.

This book signing was Ms. Sippel’s first book signing event and she blew it by acting like a child. Then further complicates matters by engaging in revenge tactics. The libel containied in Ms. Sippel’s book that I speak about in my previous comment of November 27 were ‘revenge tactics’ agaisnt me.

I applaud the museum giving authors a venue to meet and greet the public and sell their works, and as a family member of Ms. Sippel, I extend my apologies for her behavor.

December 3 at 6:06pm

Gert Mcqueen          if Doris M Sippel/Joan M Wheeler goes to book signings for the purpose of continued exploitation of 2 her families to promote her anti-adoption politics and ends up arguing with other authors and exposing them to spam tactics, because they are pro-adoption, then Doris/Joan ought to be banned from attending book signings, after all it is MINE family that is being exploited by Doris/Joan and the greater Buffalo population ought to know that. December 3 at 3:32pm


Found the following on


Doris Michol Sippel December 1 at 8:48pm · Buffalo


I was one of 65 local authors who presented their books for sale at the Buffalo (New York) History Museum on Sat Nov 26, 2016. This was my very first author event for my memoir, Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity. (Amazon)

The woman to my right handed me her book mark. She is a well-known author by the name of Mary Arno. Here is here contact info from her book mark: 716- 523-0200
(You will need it to send her emails to inform her about the reality of adoption. She has no clue.)

I gave her my flyer. She read it: “The death of my married mother when I was an infant led to my closed adoption. Eighteen years later, I was found by family I did not know I had.” Inside the flyer was a statement about sealed birth certificates and falsified birth certificates.

Mary Arno turned to me and said, “you sound very angry!”

I shot out at her, “I am now! Thank you for putting me on the defensive! I am the expert of my life!”

She said, “You should be mad at your BIOLOGICAL mother for giving you away, not at your adoptive parents…”

At hearing her refer to my MOTHER as my “BIOLOGICAL MOTHER”, I got even madder and began shouting at her. “My mother died!”

But she didn’t even acknowledge my loss. “Then you should be mad at your father for giving you away, not at your adoptive parents!”

“I never blamed my father for giving me away! He was in an impossible situation, a father of five children, his wife died of cancer, how I could blame him…”

Mary Arno shot back at me, “Oh no, it is clearly his fault! He willing gave you away! You SHOULD blame him!” And in the next breath, she asked, “Your adoptive parents loved you, didn’t they?”

I yelled, “Oh? My adoptive parents lied to me my entire life! Lies, lies, lies! And more lies! They knew I had sisters and a brother who lived 6 miles from me my entire childhood, yet they willfully prevented me from knowing my own siblings! I would hardly call that love! New York State stole my birth certificate and I’m not supposed to upset over that?”

“I am an adoptive mother so I have a different opinion than you do,” Mary Arno declared smugly.

I shouted back at her. “You did not give birth so your name does not belong on a birth certificate.”

“That is your opinion!” Mary Arno snapped back at me.

“It’s more than my opinion. I have 42 years of personal and professional experience in adoption reform. This is a global movement to eradicate adoption from the planet. Adoptees and mothers-of-adoption-loss are rising in protest against adoption.”
I told her I am fighting New York State for my right to my own birth certificate. She said I should do just that! As if I need her permission for my activism!

Then Mary Arno said to me, “So, writing your memoir, that must have been a very cathartic experience for you.”

Nice going. What a put-down. No, it actually was hard work. As if all adoptees who write memoirs write simply to “get it out of our systems” so “we can move on with our lives”. Hell, I wouldn’t wish this journey on my worst enemy.

Somehow, I got through he two hour event by talking with people as they came up to the table.

I sent Mary Arno a long email on the proper etiquette on how to talk with an adopted person. I encourage all adoptees and mothers-of-adoption-loss to do so as well.

Here is the front and back of Mary Arno’s bookmark with her website and contact info – email and phone number. Yes, she lives in Buffalo, New York.  716- 523-0200


Julie Kelly        Am so sorry you were treated that way, Doris. That woman was totally in the wrong!

1) Substitute anyone else who had been victimized by anything or experienced huge losses, and it’s obvious how inappropriate and insensitive her first comment was to …See More

December 1 at 9:56pm

Doris Michol Sippel         Thank you. Why don’t you write to her and tell her that? I told her in my own words. She needs to hear form others. Because, obviously, she is so ill-informed and biased. December 1 at 10:01pm

Julie Kelly Doris,       my comment is awaiting approval. Whether it gets posted or not, at least she will read it. Yesterday at 12:52am

Karen Beebe Wilson Buterbaugh        You did a wonderful thing by educating this ignorant person who thinks she is some kind of authority on adoption!!! I applaud you and thank you for doing that!! Big smile on my face reading your responses to that ignorant adoptor!!! December 1 at 10:01pm

Doris Michol Sippel         Karen Beebe Wilson Buterbaugh I sent her a very long email! With my typed book list of 135 books that I own! And several articles. Maybe you could write to her as well! She needs to hear from us! (Thank you by the way!)  December 1 at 10:04pm



I sent an email on Dec 3, 2016, titled…you are being maliciously maligned by Doris M Sippel

Hello Mary Arno

My name is Gert McQueen. I am ccing this to Ruth Herr Sippel Pace. We are birth sisters to Doris M Sippel. It has come to my attention that Doris (known also as Joan M Wheeler) has begun a hate campaign against you. You ought to know that she is anti-adoption and uses book groups and book signings to promote her quasi political positions, exploiting both the adopted and birth families.

I am sharing the following for your information and would suggest that you make event organizers aware of Doris’ motives for her book, how the book is libelous and untrue, how she exploits her families, and the public and how she treats authors like yourself.

The first is what Ruth and I placed on the Buffalo History Museum’s Facebook when she saw the event.

The second is what I found just this morning on a Facebook page of anti-adoption, Doris’ call to attack you.

Please feel free to respond to myself and sister Ruth. Our blogs are listed in the following.

Thank you  Gert McQueen

end of email sent

Now I have NOT heard back from Mary Arno, nor do I expect to, but I’m sure that she read the email and looked at the ‘items’ as presented to her and here.

Doris/Joan writes that she has a

‘book list of 135 books that I own! And several articles’ on the topic of adoption and adoptees!

Wow!!! That must certainly make her the authoritative voice on the subject and her logic to browbeat another!

She also writes…

‘This is a global movement to eradicate adoption from the planet.’

Hate to mention it, but it was I, me, Gert, who was the one who FIRST used the word ERADICATE in terms of adoption…this only means that Joan/Doris HAS BEEN reading my blog! nice going Joan!

All this proves that her ‘book’ is NOT selling well on Amazon, take a look at the reviews for example. She has laid out some money in order to have PRINTED books available for book signings! I know how that business works! If Joan/Doris continues to alienate other authors and gets DIS-INVITED to book signings…she will end of having a living room full of her precious book and no buyers! Idiot child that she is!


A new discussion topic on the ‘author’s page’ of Forbidden Family, Duped By Adoption!

Any author’s work should stand up to critical analysis and discussion; for without such, the ‘work’ is just a vanity piece written for personal attention! Because the author, of this particular vanity piece, has written ABOUT family members, it is all the more important to use critical analysis and thinking and engage in discussions.

I placed the following ‘discussion’ on the author’s page. Please do read and partake in discussion!

Your initial post: Aug 17, 2016 8:49:30 AM PDT

gert mcqueen says:

People can write comments on each review and can start discussions. I have six discussions about this book; Gert Mcqueen’s discussion topics. Each discussion goes into greater detail about aspects of this book. As well, you may click on my name, in any comment, to reach my profile page.
The topics are:
1) about the FORWARD.
2) Author’s description of what’s in the book.
3) changes in what’s in the book, about the author and bio sections
4) about the author and biography
5) The author is NOT a Late Discovery Adoptee!
6) The author has again rewritten the boiler-plate material!

here is the Permalink to all my discussions:



ANOTHER NEW REVIEW, of that garbage book, duped by adoption, by S10 Pete

This is the third #13 review!  Sib Ruth’s review was removed as was mine, via Amazon, because we are ‘not allowed’ to write a review! Then a person, who had a review, deleted it! Perhaps they didn’t want to be associated with the book!

So the total number of reviews and who wrote them keeps shifting around. But hey…isn’t #13 a ‘significant’ number!

Anyway…this NEW review is ‘short and sweet’ as the saying goes, but is NOT very sweet!

A  powerful and yet very sad book, too bad everything is still the same …

By S10 Pete on July 18, 2016

A powerful and yet very sad book, too bad everything is still the same years later. No forgiving going on.

Like I said, short and to the point and so I wrote a larger comment…

Jul 19, 2016 4:32:30 PM PDT

gert mcqueen says:

This book is not ‘powerful’; it’s seething with anger! It’s not ‘sad’; it’s pitiful and spiteful. Yep, it’s still the same, for the author is not interested in forgiving, she wants to tell her tale…so be it! As the author states, on page 366, ‘what I have learned…is to own up to the wrongs I have done, to make amends and to strive to be a better person, unless contact would be destructive to me.’ Ah, but forgiveness does NOT come with a one–way only condition! This book’s very existence is testimony to the fact that the author is not willing to forgive. For forgiveness to happen, she MUST let go of the stone that is dragging her down, and do her own work ON FORGIVING! – ‘There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.’ Hamlet, II, ii

Now let’s see how long it takes for this to become an issue as the last reviewer, Mark, turned out to be. In any event, seems as if this book is beginning to ‘stink’ as more and more people are moving away from Joan and/or don’t have much to say about it.



very nasty behavioral patterns…some exhibited by ‘duped by adoption’

here’s a great article on learning and understanding behavioral patterns…


How do we save humanity? By believing in socialized psychopaths!