Just after the publication, in November 2009, of her book Forbidden Family, when her birth sisters found that she had published, Joan had a rant on her blog. Joan has had at least four (4) different blogs, all in her attempts to prevent her birth family from reading the lies she writes; as if she has the power to prevent anyone from READING anything on the INTERNET!
She then used parts of her rants, of 2009, to create a hate blog against us. We have exposed and counter her bullshit many times in the past and will continue to do so. Why? Because, she is a dangerous sick person and needs to be exposed. She continues to exploit our parents and our family and our lives for her own personal fame and fortune; both of which continue to fail for her. If anything, Joan/Doris is a joke even in her own adoption reform community.
Joan has had many screen names. In June 2016 she had changed her name legally back to her birth name. The following was written under her screen name of ‘legitimatebastard’.
The reason for THIS post is because we have NEVER before shown the screen shots of when this rant was first published, by Joan. And the FACT that she has removed them from her current blog only underscores that she is INDEED a sneak! Remember that Joan exposed us back in 2008 when she was plugging her ‘soon’ to be published book.
Since of course, Joan has republished it 3 times and each one has been exposed by us.
The first book ‘Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism‘ was published in 2009 but then was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011, for libelous material within the book. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! see these links for further information…
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Here are links to posts where this garbage of Joan/Doris was addressed before…
HERE NOW is the full text as WAS posted.
Abusers are Warned to Stay Away
On December 7, 2009, in Uncategorized, by legitimatebastard
There are specific members of both my adoptive family and my natural family who have been warned to stay away from me: do not view or access my website. Do not show up to any book signings or lectures that I do. Do not deface any of my books that will be in book stores. Do not come to my house. Do not come to my church or mail letters there. Do not email me. Do not send me letters in the mail. Do not call me or talk other relatives to giving you my unlisted phone number. Stop your harassing and slanderous public attacks upon my personal reputation and my professional reputation. You have hurt me enough over the course of three decades. Stop. You don’t have to like what I do, but you do have to leave me alone. I am not bothering you. I do not have your unlisted phone numbers, nor do I know where you live, except for one person in Buffalo: I do know where you live and I have not contacted you in any way. You, however, are using your employer’s computers to access my website. You are using many IP addresses in Buffalo to bother me by reading my website. We saw each other in 2003 when our brother died. You started up again and I told you to stop. Stop. No contact means no contact. Forever.
The one in Watertown: nice try a few years ago to have our step mother make the call so you and I could talk. I know what you were fishing for and it ain’t gonna happen. You did what you did to blatantly hurt me, my children, my now ex-husband, and my adoptive mother, especially on the night her husband, my adoptive father, died. You have no respect for our lives. Your nice letter orchestrated with the other Sippel sisters in 1993 to “Throw me out of the family” really showed you cared. You abused me in ways that no human should be abused. Especially not a youngest sister who was vulnerable, even at age 18 and 20. I was emotionally devastated by the shock of my reunion and the aftermath your phone call did to my parents and to me. None of you cared what damage you caused. You had your chance to patch our relationships, but you blew it. You and the others are not trustworthy. Stay out of my life. If we see each other when our father and step mother dies, so be it. We share a father and a step mother. When that time comes, behave yourself. That goes for the other two sisters, too. Beyond that, you have been and are now, again, told to stay away from me for the duration of your lifetime.
To the sister in Liverpool, England, better stay away from me for the duration of your lifetime. The last time I saw your face was the last time I was in Liverpool: Christmas You treated me like crap, going hysterical on me, because I look like THEM. Of course I do! We have the same parents! Whatever you have in your mind that I have tried to throw you out of England, I have no idea what you tell people. You destroyed friendships and Cliff Hall from Thye Liverpool Spinners DIED without hearing from me how much he and his family meant to me on my two trips to Liverpool. Same thing with Chris and Hughie Jones. Same thing with Mick Groves and Tony Davis and Jacquie and Jack Owen. You sure do have a big mouth accusing me of doing things to you when I have had no contact with you since our phone converstation at Christmas of 1988. First you ask me to come to Liverpool, I plan it for two months, then, you call me hysterically and tell me that if I show up I will ruin The Spinners’ last concert for you. I stayed in Buffalo because you didn’t want me. I did not ever contact you again. But you called me, my children, my ex-husband, and yelled horrible statements at me for years. You are ordered to stay away from my website and any book signings and lectures I may do in England or Scotland. You are not welcome in my life — ever.
To the sister in Buffalo: stay away from me for the duration of your lifetime. When our father and our step mother get sick and die, other trusted family members will call me. You are not wanted in my life in any way, in any form. You have been told this a million times over the course of decades. Go away and stay away from me and my children. And do not even THINK of showing up at my adoptive mother’s funeral. You swine! You threatened her! You charged her with child abuse of her grandchildren! You violated an Order of Protection that I had out on you when you showed up at my house in 1993 when my husband and I were moving out of our marrital residence and into separate residences because I was divorcing him. I nver had a sexual or emotional affair with your boyfriend/husband! How dare you accuse me of such trash! And you kept it up for years, invading wherever I moved, calling me, calling my adoptive mother. Leave me and my family alone. Get out of my life! Do not contact any of my adoption reform friends. You are pressing your luck and offending people.
Even me writing this post is offensive. I want nothing to do with my three sisters because of the separate and collective effort to malicioulsy hurt me. make fun of me. Put me down. Now, I have acheived my life goal: I would have been happy writtiing about all the fun and exciting things we did, like the Star Trek Convention. But the three of you just would not let up. I write an article in the paper against sperm donation and you blame me and accuse me of attacking you. Keep your screwy nonsense to yourself. I do not want you in my life at all. The last time you were told this in person was at our father’s 80th birthday. I out up with your antagonistic attitudes for the party for the father we share, but I warned you then, and the fact that you are back, over and over again, means that I must, again, waste my time in securing law enforcement to keep you and the other Sippel sisters away from me.
To my three full blood sisters: STAY OUT OF MY LIFE FOREVER. The three of you are not the focus of my reunion, nor are you the focus of my life. You are simply not as important in my life as you seem to think you are. My adoption and reunion with natural blood kin involve other people and my relationships with them. My book is largely about me: it is my memoir, my social work assessment of my adoption, and, my ivestigations into adoption law and statistics, and, my professional suggestions for change. Harasment from my sisters and from other relatives plays a part in my development, but this is but a part of the whole. Other relatives are suspects in Buffalo and surrounding area. I have said this before to you many times: stay away from me, my website, and anything I do. Harassers, stalkers, cyber bullies, and abusers in general are not wanted in my life. The few relatives who are kind and considerate, who have never hurt me, who have never hurt my children or my ex husband, or who have not hurt my adoptive mother, you know who you are. You are welcome in my life.
Sorry that my varied readership — England, Ireland, Scotland, Australia, Europe, Canada, New Zealand, Indonesia, Honolulu, India, Italy, Greece, Egypt, parts of Africa and all over the United States, Mexico, and South America — I am sorry to put warnings on my site. I am sorry to stoop down to my abusers’ level with this rambling tirad.
All people are welcome here. Especially other adoption reformers from around the world. Specific people who have abused me and my children and my adoptive mother and my ex-husband were told many times over decades of abuse to get out of my life forever. Their input into my life and my adoption reform is not wanted, not needed, and is intrusive. By accessing my website, and other websites of adoption reformers, you are causing me, and my adoption reform friends, great distress. Go away. You were never interested in my adoption work. You mocked me and ridiculed me. You sent me hate mail, some from known senders and some from anonymous senders, but all of you were and are family members. Now you even have your full names in blogs to ridicule me by my name. You are in your late 50s and early 60s, but you do not act like adults. Get out of my life.
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On December 10, 2009, in Adoption Psychology, Family Systems, by legitimatebastard
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Kaleidahealth.org and Buffalo General Hosptial employee Ruth Sippel Pace has made it her business to attract public attention. It seems that she wants it that way. She and sister Kathy Sippel Inglis from Liverpool, UK want to humilate me. Funny thing, our oldest sister, Gertrude Sippel Finken McQueen, has somehow backed off. Wonder why. Keep at it and I will publish online the real reasons you keep doing what you do. Freedom of speech, right? Want to do trash talk? I’ll give you trash talk of all the dirty little secrets all three of you have that are not in my book. And, why did I bother to change names in the book? I was thinking of all of YOUR privacy, but heh, guess it is time to use real names because Ruthie decided to jump the gun.
You have invaded my life time and time again. Go ahead. You want to know you have hurt me, well, you have. Repeatedly. I am worth nothing. You have proven that. I give my deep and humble bow to the authority of my older and wiser sisters. I am paying for this website, but it is yours now. Do with it as you please. I will continue to pay for any abuse you fling my way. Reunions are not bad. Adoptees are not bad. But when they are found by sisters who have no respect for others, then there is a big problem. Anyone who wants to read more abuse, please read the Page: Cyber Bullies and Stalkers Forum.
Go to it. I’m just a lousy, good for nothing, adoptee, born a premie, should have died because then the four older kids would have had your mother. Baby sister is just a shit head. Involve yourselves some more in my life. Go ahead. Kill any chance of a life for me. You’ve been doing that for decades.