Joan M Wheeler should not be her own publicist! Her constant rewrites and piecemeal promotions are not consistent! Bad PR work as well as lying!

She cannot remember what she wrote, when she wrote it and apparently doesn’t care that there are many inconsistencies in her PR campaigns, let alone within the book(s). In this new revision, ‘duped by adoption’, on Kindle and printed versions, besides the many old, and now new lies, against two families, we find some significant ‘additions’ and ‘omissions’.

On the book’s Facebook page, https://www.facebook.com/Forbidden-Family-358715425479/ and on Amazon, in two places, one called ‘biography’, the other called ‘about the author’ (under editorial reviews) and in the book itself. They are three different versions of her ‘bio’!

In the book the first paragraph, of her bio, isn’t even there! I can only guess, of course, about that. Knowing Joan as I do, she uses her propaganda to ‘grab’ people’s attention and then reels them in. Once she has them ‘caught and netted’ (book purchased) she doesn’t need that inflammatory propaganda.

To begin…here is her biography/about the author. After which will be some of my own commentaries, that I could not place on Amazon, and then what I did placed on Amazon as a discussion topic. here is the link to that discussion topic

http://www.amazon.com/about-the-author-and-biography/forum/Fx16ZHWP5PQHHCK/TxU3Z2WEE6OKCO/1/ref=cm_cd_et_md_pl?_encoding=UTF8&asin=B00X520CGW&cdMsgID=Mx3MC6S24I30Z0A&cdMsgNo=1&cdSort=oldest#Mx3MC6S24I30Z0A

Joan’s words in italic

Joan Mary Wheeler is an American adoptee and author fighting for the freedom of 7 to 10 million American adoptees and donor-conceived people. She is a displaced and resettled person by adoption, a reunited adoptee since 1974, an adoptees’ rights activist and adoption abolitionist promoting family preservation, kinship care, then guardianship over adoption. Domestically-born and adopted, she was born legitimately as Doris Michol Sippel in 1956 and half-orphaned at age three months when her mother died.

Since 1975, her articles on adoptees’ civil and human rights have been published in The Buffalo News (since 1976) and The Erie Daily Times (1975 – 1976). Joan contributed to the publication of the United States Congressional Record, Foster Care and Adoption Assistance Program (1985). Her autobiographical article “Dual Identity” appeared in Common Ground: WNY Women’s Newsjournal, Buffalo, New York (1985). A revised version, “The Secret is Out,” was published in Adoption and Fostering: Journal of the British Agencies for Adoption and Fostering (1990), and a Dutch translation was included in the book Kind van Andere Ouders (Child of Other Parents), The Netherlands (1991). Joan contributed to the New South Wales Law Reform Commission’s publication Report 69: Review of the Adoption Information Act 1990, Australia (1992). She presented a paper entitled “Adoptees and Children of Reproductive Technologies” to The President’s Council on Bioethics, Washington, D.C. (2004). A collection of her poems was published in Over Coffee: The Northside Writers Anthology, Snyder, New York (2012). 

Joan has been interviewed on radio and television in the United States, Canada, and England.

Joan worked as a hospital social worker with head trauma patients, homeless services, crisis counseling, and suicide prevention.

She received a Bachelor of Arts from Mercyhurst College in Erie, Pennsylvania (1978) and a Bachelor of Science in Social Work from State University of New York College at Buffalo, graduating Cum Laude (1999). She resides in Buffalo, New York, USA.

End of Joan’s bio.

Now, it must be remembered that a person cannot really catch each and every addition or omission or sleight of hand that Joan does; for her constant rewrites makes it almost impossible to spot them. But the birth siblings have enough, more than enough, reasons, and ability, to spot a new lie or fabrication, and point them out.

With no particular reference as such, here are some passing thoughts…

Joan’s MO is NOT to educate or reform but to argue, browbeat and intimidate those that CHOSE to adopt. She did it to me, in 1980/81, when I and second husband adopted my son. She violated my parental rights, because to her adoption is an evil. She said I was HARMING my children. Her violation of my family’s rights was the reason I ‘divorced’ her and for that she continues to harm me within the pages of her libelous story and everywhere!

This type of behavior does NOT win anyone to her side of an argument. She complains that I did not listen to her. I did! Then I told her to butt out of my business. I then proceeded to do what was RIGHT for me and my family; adopt. Joan punished me with false child abuse reports, twice!

For Joan to state that she is a ‘fighter for freedom and rights’ of one group of people and then condemn and ridicule another group of people only shows her anger and frustration at being adopted and her powerlessness to stop others from adopting. Because Joan is so convinced of her arguments against adoption she is totally oblivious to the utter nonsense that she writes/speaks. She is a true believer in her cause; that is a very dangerous person.

She does have a wild imagination! She has delusions of grandeur and missed place self-importance thinking. How can she compare adoption with refugees and nations of people that have been displaced? Adoptees are NOT a race or a nation.

Here’s another example of how she misrepresents her self-importance. She says…‘She presented a paper entitled “Adoptees and Children of Reproductive Technologies” to The President’s Council on Bioethics, Washington, D.C. (2004).’

Well not really! I researched that and found the truth of the matter. She gave a statement at a public comment session and NOTHING was done about her ‘comments’. I wrote about it; see this link…

https://gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/2013/05/02/to-make-herself-look-like-an-important-activist-joan-wheeler-misrepresents-issues-to-the-bioethics-council/

Other forms of changes and descriptions occur from one edition to the next such as…

From page 645 of the first libelous edition of 2009, where she lists her ‘jobs’ to what she has in the new edition; many are gone or altered. In the first book she listed elder care (that would be her being primary care-giver for her adopted mother and an occasional ‘volunteer’ to help with birth father) until he ‘kicked’ her out after being abused by her.

Youth program development (that would be that position of ‘driver’ she had for a season). I know! She had a short time job ‘driving’ juveniles to and from their appointments. She was a driver and had NOTHING to do with ‘program development’.

She used her contacts there, at that social-services office, to report abuse on me because I was in the process of adoption which she did not want me to do. When I told her to butt out, she didn’t. I refused her contact with my minor children. She then went behind my back telling my children they did NOT have to listen to me. She ‘deemed’ that I and husband were ABUSING my children and we needed to be punished so she called that second abuse report on me. I was exonerated! I still have the court documents that proved that I never abused my children!

What she writes in those books and elsewhere about me and my family are TOTALLY WRONG. It is strictly from her diseased mind that she fabricates ‘what happened’. She violated the sacred bonds between parent and child, because she has a sick understanding of that bond. What Joan did to MY CHILDREN is nothing short of KIN-KILLING, of reputation and privies of CHILDREN who had NOTHING to do with Joan’s life or adoption! I shall never forget nor forgive what Joan M Wheeler did to me and family!

homeless services, crisis counseling, and suicide prevention

She VOLUNTEERED on a ‘crisis hot-line’. Certainly such volunteering would give a person some ‘insights’ but it is NOT the same as saying she had A JOB in that field. I volunteer for Hospice, had training, have continuing training, but that does NOT make me a fully knowledgeable person in the field of HOSPICE care.

‘hospital social worker with head trauma patients’  That type of position would require specialized medical training.

Joan has NEVER WORK as a social worker. If she did she would list the employer. I worked for the VA in Buffalo NY and DOD in Fort Drum NY; I can prove my employment, Joan can NOT, that is why she does NOT list the employers.

She is disabled and been living on NY State Disability for many years.

I would REQUEST that she provide ‘where’ she received the additional training to work in a hospital with head trauma patients (a social worker degree would NOT be sufficient). Joan is very good at ‘resume padding’. In the real world she would be called on these ‘bare-bones’ jobs and experiences she claims.

In the 2009 publication of her first libelous book, she called herself an adoption activist and reformer. Now, in this 2015 self-published libelous book, she is an ABOLITIONIST. The only thing that is acceptable to her is the total elimination of adoption from the planet

There is always NOW going to be a difficulty in knowing for a ‘fact’ where and what Joan has said, in the Kindle editions. I do mean plural here, for she has already UPDATED the e-book, including removing 4 chapters and footnotes. Part of this ‘boiler plate’ nonsense is from (location 8237 to 8256) of the Kindle version. But now it is on location 6956.

On page 645 from the first libelous edition of 2009, pulled from publication via the publisher Trafford Publishers in 2011 has a ‘about the author’. This first book was entitled: Forbidden Family; A half orphan’s account of her adoption, reunion and social activism. With a Foreword by Prof. Dr. Rene Hoksbergen.

This book is ‘out of print’ and ‘unavailable’, since May 2011, because the publisher will NOT reproduce it, as they determined that Joan VIOLATED their contract. You can find details of the book, reviews and comments, via Amazon. Here is the link:

Forbidden Family    Nov 23, 2009  by Joan M. Wheeler Currently unavailable

The kindle version has a completely different title and her name, as author now is, Joan Mary Wheeler. She removed her ‘birth’ name, from the front cover and the ‘family’ picture on the back cover, due to our, the birth family’s objections (via our blogs). BUT, within the pages of this new version, Joan gives full disclosure of our family names and heritages, places of residences and photos as well as where to ‘find’ and ‘view’ the family photo!

By doing these things, she expects people NOT to know of and/or find her previous libelous book. But rest assured, just google the title or go to that Amazon link and you will find it.

A very important note, of interest here, is to be mindful that many changes from the first book to this new revised book are what Joan found on her sisters’ (Gert, Ruth and Kathy) blogs and other comments, on many news sites/articles where we have spoken out about her. We know this because Joan, and her gang of thugs (angry adoptees who hate adoption and believe in Joan’s lies about us), have read our blogs since the beginning. We have noted her errors and given the correct information, over and over again.

There are whole BLOCKS of rewritten aspects of her ‘true’ story, from one book to the other, and in many places where rewrites are slanted to ‘prove’ her position against what the family has said about the first book. This proves, to those of us that KNOW the truth, that Joan is still doing the same old, same old, bullshit con-artist games.

We have found ‘significant’ changes that Joan FOUND on our blogs and where she incorporated them. A small example would be Joan’s use of the word ZERO, when describing the LACK of social-services in 1956. It was, and is RUTH, who used the word ZERO, many times. Joan stole it; it is not her first choice of word, wasn’t in the first book but it is in her revision! We have seen this many times BEFORE the second book was published. Joan, in discussions, that we blogged about, would use ‘word for word’ what we said on our blogs! She has limited imagination and is a copier.

This observation have lead us (the birth sisters) to the assertion that what Joan writes is HER UNDERSTANDING and not necessarily the truth; she will not deviate much from her view point, that adoption is an evil, but she lies about everyone and everything and event. A Trafford Publishing House representative, that I spoke with, during their investigation of her book, said to me that he told Joan ‘to write a book your sisters would like’…well she didn’t because she can’t!

And finally here is what I placed on a discussion topic on Amazon

Discussion topic…. title  ‘about the author and biography’

Let us discuss what the author puts forth here, on Amazon, in two places, one is called ‘biography’, the other is called ‘about the author’ (under editorial reviews).

‘adoptee and author fighting for the freedom’ …WOW I’m impressed! She’s a freedom fighter! Not! She doesn’t fight for anyone’s freedom! She fights to rid the world of adoption! A person cannot claim to fight for freedom, of one group, while oppressing other groups.

‘She is a displaced and resettled person by adoption’…WOW! I even more impressed! Where does she get her ‘play book’ from? Displaced and resettled?! Double WOW! I’ve seen this elsewhere, oh yes, in those last chapters of this ‘revised’ book that she deleted, where she demands RESTITUTION from the government, for being an adoptee! And it is on page 566, of the first ‘true account’; ‘I demand restitution for my life as a person duped by adoption’. Guess where she got the title of this new and improved book?

Regardless of what the author says, adoptees are NOT considered to be a race or nation that have been displaced and resettled, nor are they entitled to restitution. As long as the institution of adoption exists there cannot be any restitution!

‘half-orphaned at age three months when her mother died’ … using the author’s definition the other four children became half-orphaned, as well, when their mother died! She is NOT the only one who ever was a ‘half-orphan’, only difference is she was placed into adoption, that doesn’t make her unique. Here we see that change in her age. In the ‘what’s in the book’ section, (on the very same page on Amazon), the author states she was ‘age four months’, here is was three months. Not being consistent with even one thing can lead people to doubt the author.

‘an adoptees’ rights activist and adoption abolitionist promoting family preservation, kinship care, then guardianship over adoption’

The author gives no suggestions as to how to handle the millions of children, for numerous reasons, that are unable to take advantage of ‘family preservation, kinship care, then guardianship’. This abolitionist position is not only unattainable, it is Utopian; in the worlds of human there is never any Utopian society.

“A revised version, “The Secret is Out,” was published in Adoption and Fostering: Journal of the British Agencies for Adoption and Fostering (1990), and a Dutch translation was included in the book Kind van Andere Ouders (Child of Other Parents), The Netherlands (1991)” 

This ‘revised version’ contained real names of family members. It was cited on Page 634 footnote #15 in yet another ‘revised version’, her first ‘book’, ‘Forbidden Family; A half orphan’s account of her adoption, reunion and social activism’.

It is very interesting that this first book is NOT mention, here, or inside the pages of this current ‘revised version’. There is a very real valid reason for that. The book can be found on Amazon including book cover, and comments, here is the listing;

Forbidden Family    Nov 23, 2009  by Joan M. Wheeler Currently unavailable

Joan worked as a hospital social worker with head trauma patients, homeless services, crisis counseling, and suicide prevention.

This looks like ‘resume padding’. In the real world she would be called on these ‘bare-bones’ jobs, experiences and be asked to provide references. The Facebook page, for this book, says the author has been self-employed since 1975. Does that mean these jobs were not jobs at all? There’s that lack of consistency again.

She received a Bachelor of Arts from Mercyhurst College in Erie, Pennsylvania (1978) and a Bachelor of Science in Social Work from State University of New York College at Buffalo, graduating Cum Laude (1999). She resides in Buffalo, New York, USA.

The author’s education was paid for by the adoptive parents. She and her children lived with her adopted mother most of the author’s life who still lives in the ‘inherited’ house. She does not live in Buffalo NY. Having a ‘degree’ in something is NOT the same as having a job in that field.

Inside this book it states. ‘2nd Edition Portions previously copyrighted and published 1981, 1990, 2009’ and ‘Published by Identity Press, Buffalo NY’

Identity Press is owned and operated by the author, therefore this book is self-published. The 1990 version had the real names of family members in it. The 2009 version was pulled from publication by the publisher, Trafford Publications in 2011.

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